Jennie S. Bev

Regular Columnist

Would love to write for a few more regular columns on these topics: business, communications, and law in publications based in USA, UK, Canada, Australia, or New Zealand.

Reflections as I Reach Early Middle Adulthood

by Jennie S. Bev

March 30th is my birthday. This year, I’m reaching the milestone of middle adulthood. Being in my early 40s brings both joy and a reason to reflect. In these four decades, I have met many interesting people, traveled to many beautiful places, and done many useful things.

In this reflection, I have decided to give more weight to the positive things instead of the negative ones. I have succeeded and I have failed, yet both experiences are useful and make me the way I am today.

Both the positive and the negative experiences are positive in the end. Because our default state is positive; we give valuable meanings to every experience; and every single meaning adds up to the pile of “life experiences.”

Life’s impermanence and momentary motherhood

by Jennie S. Bev

Life is a series of impermanence. People and things come and go. There are hellos and goodbyes throughout our lifetime. But the most painful goodbye for a woman is the death of her child, either born or unborn. I did not realize how painful it was until I experienced it recently.

Unknowingly already pregnant for seven weeks, suddenly I was pronounced expecting only to find out a few hours later that the baby had died. The surreal elated feeling of joy was suddenly overridden by deep profound sadness, the rare kind of grief experienced only by mothers who have lost their children. Every mother who has lost a child remembers him or her in every breath she takes for as long as she lives.